Have you ever looked back on your life and wonder “What the heck was I thinking”  or “Why in the world did I let it get that bad”?  Ever felt like you simply wished you could live in that 20/20 hindsight?  How much more perfect would life be if we could see precisely what effects our actions would have on life around us?  How much heartache and pain could we avoid, and how much more wonderful and fulfilling would our relationships be?

Thinking that way though leads us to swamp lands.  The Quick Sand of Regret.  And we can choose to stay there until it’s too late.. till we are chin deep in the muck and mire of our own junk.  So stuck in the quicksand that you can’t even struggle.  You can’t even raise your hands…. can’t even praise or worship.

((I think I talk a lot about being stuck… because I have been stuck.  A lot.  I will also say, that I am still stuck in parts of my life. Still working through all my “stuck bits”.  And that’s ok, we are all stuck in certain areas… as long as we recognize the quicksand and start working our way out.))

The reason why your windshield is larger than your rear view mirror is because where you’re going, is greater than where you’ve been. Go.
Kirk Franklin

The past is gone.  The future is better.  The present…. is the best.  What you do now, how you act, the choices you make RIGHT NOW are the most important.  The choices you make right now, and the attitude you have is going to determine whether or not you sink or swim. 

See… we try to make things so complicated.  We wanna call someone and tell them all about it, ask them to find the biggest stick they can, some grappling hooks, a harness, some plywood, a couple friends.  We say, alert the media, tell the pastor, I’m in quick sand and I need rescued.  Rescued from our regrets and bad decisions.  CALL 911!

(I might be exaggerating… slightly).

It’s actually much more simple than that.  It’s all about choice.  The choice to change our circumstances, the choice to change our attitude…. the choice to just change!

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things
Phil 4:8

A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.
Proverbs 17:22

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
Phil 4:6

I can do all things through him who strengthens me.
Phil 4:13

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
1 John 1:9

Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
Phil 3:13-14
(Can you tell I like Philippians!?)

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
Matthew 11:28-30

See.. it’s as easy as that.  Ahh.. sarcasm is hard to portray on a blog.  I know it isn’t easy… but it is simple.  It’s not a 12 step program, it’s not some crazy ritual or fully choregraphed dance number with intricate steps, moves, and nuances.  It’s simply a choice.  Every day, every moment, a choice.  

You may be thinking I am over simplifying things… but think about it.  You make a choice to get up in the morning or stay in bed.  Then you make a choice to yell at your daughter to get her butt in gear, or gently encourage her to move a little faster.  You make a choice to get McDonalds or take a few extra seconds and eat a healthy meal at home.  You make a choice to yell at your spouse, or love him even though he is a man.  You make a choice to gossip about the person who is gossiping about you, or to speak blessings over that same person.  You make a choice to complain or be thankful.  You make a choice to stomp your feet or raise your hands.  You make a choice to dwell in the past, in your regrets, in your muck, mire and junk.  Or… you make a choice to lift your chin up, give it to God, and let Him rescue you.  One simple pluck of the mighty hand of God and you are out.  You’re free.  You’re out, ready to walk on and finish the race you started.  Unfettered, unchained, unhindered.  Un. Stuck. 

Do you want to be unstuck?  I do, so very desperately.  

Call on Jesus.  Call on His name and He will free you.  His name has the power to break every chain and truly bring freedom.  

I’m still getting unstuck.  More and more free every day.  Walking through the muck and the mire isn’t easy, but shake it off.  Shake off your boots and step on.
Forget what lies behind and strain forward to what lies ahead.
Press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.


Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.
John 14:27


3 thoughts on “Stuck.

  1. #1. Philippians is my favorite book of the Bible.

    #2. Very much agreed about choices. The well known quote is “insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” Your examples were spot on… like, uh, my food choices. My parenting choices.

    And some of it comes down to fear (a lot of it, maybe). When we made a drastic change in our parenting style, we were very scared of what might happen and what some people might think or misconstrue. But the old, stuck way wasn’t working, which meant we were all stuck until we were willing to try a new choice!

    All that is to say… preach bit, sista!

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